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PHYSICAL INTIMACY (SONG OF SONG 8:1-4)

REFLECTION

Physical intimacy is the theme for our reflection. It concerns touch and closeness between a couple’s bodies. In a romantic relationship, it might include holding hands, cuddling, kissing, hugging, and having sex. We shall consider the fact physical intimacy is the outward expression of affection or love for one’s partner.

Dear friend in Christ, one of the effective and meaningful ways of expressing affection and love is through physical intimacy. We see the wife of Solomon, yearning to express her love for him in public, however, there is a cultural limitation or prohibition on public expression of love through physical intimacy. It is for this reason she said “If only you were to me like a brother, who was nursed at my mother’s breasts! Then, if I found you outside, I would kiss you, and no one would despise me.” (Song of Songs 8:1) Unlike the Western world, most African cultures frown upon expression of physical intimacy in public. This cultural limitation that prohibits couples from publicly expressing love to each other has deprived many African marriages of the benefit of physical intimacy. As we grow we must unlearn and relearn some useful habits that will help our marriages. There is nothing wrong with holding hands and even sharing warmth hugs in public as couples. Certainly, nothing precludes spouses from embracing each other if that is how they feel like expressing their affection or love.

Beyond the desire to express physical intimacy in public, we must also dedicate time for private or domestic expression of love and affection through physical intimacy. The bride said concerning her husband, “His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me (Song of Songs 8:3) Physical intimacy may not necessarily involve sex. Physical intimacy may involve non-sexual touch and the sharing of bodily warmth. Ecclesiastes 4:11 reminds us that “if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” Let us not miss the opportunity to engage in physical intimacy with our spouses for these moments are the only precious memories we shall forever cherish in our hearts even after death has separated us.

In summary, we have discovered that physical intimacy is the outward expression of affection or love for one’s partner. We are greatly encouraged to engage in physical intimacy to rejuvenate and sustain our marriage relationships. Shalom.

PRAYER.

Dear Lord, ignite the power and beauty of physical intimacy in our marriages.