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When I first met Emmanuel, he was the man every woman would love to spend the rest of her life with. About a year ago, we met during an all-night service at Christ Ressurection Chapel, Adenta. He was a member of the prayer warriors who helped the pastor during the deliverance services.

It was my turn to receive a prophetic touch from the man of God during the all-night service, as the man of God touched me with a little push on my forehead, I fell on my back. I felt a strong force that kept me suspended in mid-air and as I opened my eyes I saw Emma holding me in his arms. That was the beginning of our chemistry and attraction to each other, after the service, he got close to me and we exchanged phone numbers.

Brother Emma as I called him was a forty-four-year-old businessman. I was a thirty-five-year-old banker who had had three failed relationships. One of the reasons I attended the all-night service was to pray fervently for God to find me a befitting husband. A few days after the all-night service we went on our first date at Accra mall. Emma and I got to know each other and I must confess that I was excited to have met a God-fearing man. Emma treated me like a queen, he was gentle and polite in his utterances. He was not only a prayer warrior but to my surprise, he was a romantic gentleman.

We had developed a routine of praying together every morning on phone before going to work. We checked on each other during the day. We met at least twice every week at the mall or at the church premises. We seldomly visited each other at our respective places of abode. He eventually introduced me to his head pastor and his family who warmly welcomed me with joy. Six months after we first met, we got married. It was a beautiful wedding that saw a lot of guests and prayer warriors from other sister churches. Emma being a prayer warrior had a lot of church members who were pleased with his ministry. These people were very supportive during our wedding preparations. I was blessed to have Emma as my husband.

About eight months after our wedding, I began to experience some changes in Emma’s attitude. Emma usually returns home late and was no longer interested in going out with me. I was married but felt lonely in the marriage. I complained about the situation but had no positive response in word or in action. When I asked why he was no longer interested in taking me out, he responded “woman, the days of merrymaking are over, we are now married let us get serious with life, 1 Corinthians 13: 11 says that “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”” I was surprised at his unfavourable response! Our communication grew sour by the passing of each day.

One Sunday dawn, I woke Emma up around 4:00 am for an important conversation. He did not sit upright but lay on the bed and insisted I tell him whatever it was that was bothering me. I said to him “Emma, you made me believe that you were a caring, humble and understanding gentleman when we first met. The image you portrayed is what influenced my decision to love you and agreed to become your wife. Can you please explain to me what I have done wrong to deserve the kind of treatment you are giving me eight months after our wedding” He replied, ” Kate I am a busy man, I run my business and at the same time a prayer ministry, I have to be at church to help the pastor four days in the week. Are you suggesting that I leave my business and ministry and be taking you out?!” Emma warned me not to bother him with that kind of conversation again and went back to sleep. I entered the washroom and wept with regret.

My name is Kate, I have been married less than a year and I am not happy because everything that my husband made me believe about him turned out not to be true. I feel I have been deceived into this marriage. I feel I have fallen into a trap. Sometimes I ask myself if I had rushed into this marriage without taking time to know Emma. How could have I have known that he was not who he claimed he was? Our sex life is very boring and Emma remains insensitive to my emotional needs. Could this be the meaning of the old adage “all that glitters is not gold ?” If there is something called a marital scam then I am definitely a victim!

Jean-Paul Agidi (Rev)